I’ve seen the book Same Kind of Different As Me many times at the bookstore–friends have recommended it, and I’ve bypassed it many times. Thankfully, I am now reading my dear friend’s copy. I woke up this morning at 7am unable to sleep, and have been voraciously reading it for the last 2 1/2 hours.
I love the narrative voices in this book. I love Denver’s wisdom, spoken with such stark simplicity that it is simply…profound.
One point he made about friendship really hit home with me:
“I heard that when white folks go fishin’ they do somethin called ‘catch & release.’ ” “That really bothers me,” Denver went on. “I just can’t figure it out. Cause when colored folks go fishin’, we really proud of what we catch, and we take it and show it off to everybody that’ll look. Then we eat what we catch…in other words, we use it to sustain us. So it really bothers me that white folks would go to all that trouble to catch a fish, then when they done caught it, just throw it back in the water.” He paused again, and the silence between us stretch a full minute. Then: “Did you hear what I said?”. I nodded, afraid to speak, afraid to offend. Denver looked away…then locked onto me again with that drill-bit stare. “So, Mr. Ron, it occurred to me: If you is fishin for a friend you just gon’ catch & release, then I ain’t got no desire to be your friend.” Suddenly his eyes gentled and he spoke more softly than before: “But, if you is lookin for a real friend, then I’ll be one. Forever.”
Those words made me think about all of the times–in friendship and in love–that I have been caught and released.
Then I thought about those precious souls in my life, that though we may not be in constant contact (and some of them are) when we do speak, it’s as though the miles and distance between our connection has been swallowed up into nothing in an instant. The friend and loved one that doesn’t release you, but holds steady on and loves and accepts you through your tribulations and greatest joys is such a treasure. This paragraph of words made me thank God for those souls in my life, and it made me pray for those who have released me, that they are too being blessed and loved as they have moved on in their lives. I’m someone that hates change when it relates to those I love & care for, but I am learning to embrace the new reality of each day that God gives me, and see that if we only can rest in God’s sovereignty, He constantly leads us to new and exciting journeys. I want to continually ‘catch’ my friends & family–be there for them, lift them up and grow with them into the new places in our lives. I love this book and it’s message, I know you will too.